You should have built your personality very consciously...
“You should have built your personality very consciously, but unfortunately for most people, over 90% of their personality is build unconsciously. It is molded by the situations in which they are living and they’re exposed to. If one becomes truly meditative, one of the basic qualities of meditation is, it creates a distance between you and your personality, and then you can make your personality as it is necessary for a particular situation.”
This quote is from the book “Project Bloom”